Learn to be Lonely

There was a time when I would have claimed this as my life’s theme song. I first came across it synched with a Lord of the Rings video compilation that included Galadriel, responding to Frodo saying he cannot do the task alone, by informing him that “To bear a Ring of Power is to be alone.”

My earliest memories, about age 3, include handling crisis situations while either without a parent present, or said parent was an emotional puddle (and likely compounding the crisis). My upbringing nurtured a sense of “otherness.” Being in a culture that didn’t align with my anthropologist views created an “I must have been dropped off by aliens” feeling.

But the wilderness, and the animals in it, made sense. Sometimes I would wander off, sometimes run, heading toward water or trees or both. There, I belonged. There, I still do.

It’s a beautiful song. Enjoy!


Learn to be Lonely

by Minnie Driver

Child of the wilderness
Born into emptiness
Learn to be lonely
Learn to find your way in darkness

Who will be there for you
Comfort and care for you
Learn to be lonely
Learn to be your one companion

Never dreamed out in the world
There are arms to hold you
You’ve always known your heart was on its own

So laugh in your loneliness
Child of the wilderness
Learn to be lonely
Learn how to love life that is lived alone

Learn to be lonely
Life can be lived, life can be loved alone


She Let Go by Reverend Safire Rose

Let GoShe let go. Without a thought or a word, she let go.

She let go of the fear.

She let go of the judgments.

She let go of the confluence of opinions swarming around her head.

She let go of the committee of indecision within her.

She let go of all the ‘right’ reasons.

Wholly and completely, without hesitation or worry, she just let go.


She didn’t ask anyone for advice.

She didn’t read a book on how to let go.

She didn’t search the scriptures.

She just let go.


She let go of all of the memories that held her back.

She let go of all of the anxiety that kept her from moving forward.

She let go of the planning and all of the calculations about how to do it just right.


She didn’t promise to let go.

She didn’t journal about it.

She didn’t write the projected date in her Day-Timer.

She made no public announcement and put no ad in the paper.

She didn’t check the weather report or read her daily horoscope.

She just let go.


She didn’t analyze whether she should let go.

She didn’t call her friends to discuss the matter.

She didn’t do a five-step Spiritual Mind Treatment.

She didn’t call the prayer line.

She didn’t utter one word.

She just let go.


No one was around when it happened.

There was no applause or congratulations.

No one thanked her or praised her.

No one noticed a thing.

Like a leaf falling from a tree, she just let go.

There was no effort.

There was no struggle.


It wasn’t good and it wasn’t bad.

It was what it was, and it is just that.

In the space of letting go, she let it all be.

A small smile came over her face.

A light breeze blew through her. And the sun and the moon shone forevermore…


Gaslighting article image use only for thisHave you experienced this before?

Shea Emma Fett explains that gaslighting is “when someone tries to tell you who you are, what you feel, what you think, what you intended, or what you experienced.”

A person doing this might also “rewrite” you to others, spreading this rewritten version of you. “It is hard to stand firm when one person is trying to replace your experience, but when they have a chorus of supporters, it is nearly impossible.”

Gaslighting does not require deliberate plotting. Gaslighting only requires a belief that it is acceptable to overwrite another person’s reality. The rest just happens organically when a person who holds that belief feels threatened.”

“The end game is not confrontation, it’s non-engagement.”

Read full article by Shea Emma Fett



The Talented Lee Moyer

K Wiley and Lee Moyer

K Wiley and Lee Moyer

I had the pleasure of being introduced to Lee Moyer in recent months. I enjoyed visiting with him and learning about his work, and continue to enjoy interacting with him and watching his projects come to life – so much so that I find myself inspired to share some links to Lee’s work for those of you who might not yet be aware of him and his art.

In visiting his website, be sure to check out the Small Gods collection, including one of Amanda Palmer as the God of Asking. Lee also created a clever nudie pen for Amanda Palmer, related to her response the the Daily Mail publishing a picture of her breast “escaping.” Considering Lee’s famous line of Pin-up Art, it’s not surprising that Amanda would select him for this project.

My favorite section is Process (under Delights) where you can get a hint of the process that goes into the creation of a product.


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Need a saw, drill, or other tool? Try the library.

Seattle Tool Library

A beautiful example of community sharing and collaboration, the Seattle Tool Library loans out tools in the same way a regular library does books. You can borrow the tools for a week, and if nobody else has reserved them, you can request to extend the borrow time.

They also host workshops and facilitate project collaboration opportunities such as backyard gardening.

Have a tool you would like to donate? If it is in good shape, contact the library to let them know.  And look at it this way: you can free up shed space and just borrow back the tool if you ever need it!

Do you have something like this in your community? Would this be something that could benefit the community where you live? Learn more about the Seattle Tool Library for ideas.

People can get help finding the right tools for their projects.

People can get help finding the right tools for their projects.

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Tools are organized by type and easy to find.









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