The Procrastination Equation

Do you procrastinate? Any tips for overcoming procrastination? Was reading a conversation thread about how the limbic system is a “right here, right now” influence, so if you set up instant rewards for doing things, you are more likely to follow through. The conversation noted that this is why diet and exercise are so difficult; delayed gratification isn’t the most motivating. Link to book.

Thanksgiving: All About the Presentation (In Your Mind)

When it comes to Thanksgiving, it’s all about presentation.  And I’m not talking about the food on the table, but what’s served up to you in your own mind.

Perspective determines reality. What most people don’t realize is how much control they have over that perspective and – in turn – reality.

The past few weeks leading up to this Thanksgiving serve as a good example. One kid was slammed with a flu and fever that kept increasing in spite of medicine and tepid water, almost warranting a trip to the ER before it finally broke. Another kid seems to be going out of remission with Von Willebrand symptoms. And my husband had no less than two near-death experiences while out of town, one resulting in some quick hustling to get him back home, requiring four flights over the course of two days.

And how do I feel about all this? Graciously happy! Yes, a little tired… but thankful.  Thankful that the fever broke, and that my daughter is healing. Thankful that our modern medicine gives my oldest daughter options for a full life.  Thankful that my husband is home, safe, and recovering. And thankful that we have medical insurance to help with the costs!

Life is good.

Yes, sometimes life is hard, and things happen for which it is difficult to perceive anything to be thankful about.  Sometimes the distance of time, and the gained wisdom during that time, is needed. For example, the loss of a parent can be a source of grief; the loss of a parent at a young age can create questions of fairness.  However, in looking back at such experiences in my own life, I am able to see that there was a purpose in the timing.  I can also celebrate what was.  Not everyone is so blessed to have something worth grieving.  As Dr. Suess said, “Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.”

Some people are better than others at choosing happiness. When born and raised in a society that encourages negativity, this happiness thing can take a whole lot of practice! However, brain research suggests that we can “fake it until we make it” on our way to happier (and healthier) thought patterns, and conscious practice can lead to mastering our perspectives and habits. In A Complaint Free World, Will Bowen addresses this by noting the following steps in breaking a bad habit or forming a new way of being:

  • Unconscious Incompetence: you’re not aware that you are engaging in the bad habit.
  • Conscious Incompetence: you’re aware, but you struggle to overcome the habit.
  • Conscious Competence: you avoid the bad habit, but only with conscious effort.
  • Unconscious Competence: you are now a natural! The bad habit is gone, and you don’t even have to think about it anymore.

Avoiding complaining puts the focus on creating solutions.  Instead of saying what you don’t like or don’t want, begin stating what you do like and what you do want.  This helps build an appreciation for the good things currently in your life while inviting more good things your way.  As Gandhi explained, you can “be the change you want to see in the world.”

Try this. Look at any social media site to notice how many complaints or negative comments are posted, even those supposedly nested in humor.  Do the negative or the positive posts get more interest? Pay attention to your own communications, both written and verbal.  Do you let others entice you into negativity? Do some people even react negatively to other people’s positive or proactive statements, as if they are somehow personally threatened or worried that a positive perspective is a judgment on their negative ones?

More importantly, how do you respond to these situations?

How do you define your own reality?

May you be blessed with many things to be thankful for… and the ability to recognize each and every one.

Patrick Chappatte: The power of cartoons

You always have a choice, including the choice to *not* do something. In some contexts, inaction is the strongest act of all… for better, or for worse.

TED Talks: “In a series of witty punchlines, Patrick Chappatte makes a poignant case for the power of the humble cartoon. His projects in Lebanon, West Africa and Gaza show how, in the right hands, the pencil can illuminate serious issues and bring the most unlikely people together.”